Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Deep and Wide: Loving your Spouse

As I have been going through the book of Acts learning more of Christ through Paul, there are some things I see that Saul did that we do also.

Acts 9:1 (NKJV)

The Damascus Road: Saul Converted

Then Saul, still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord, went to the high priest.

Breathing threats and murder is how many people talk to each other. When I counsel married couples there are financial issues, sexual issues and many other things that are making the marriage a tough place to stay.   The biggest issue that seems to be taking place is how we communicate with each other. What comes out of our mouths has an lasting effect on the marriage. When Paul breathed out threats, he followed through with them to the point of murder. He would tell people to renounce Christ and if they didn't they were beaten, thrown in prison, or even murdered. 
In Marriage when we say things, we can never take them back. We can say things just to be mean out of frustration which the other person takes to heart and it hurts them. When a man says something to his wife just to be mean, she thinks that's how they really feel and she is destroyed. The damage is murderous. If we begin to think about the weight our words carry we might exercise a little more self control. If we love someone we should 
1. Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to wrath. 
2. Speak blessing and not cursing over our make
3. Ask the Holy Spirit for a new tongue 

These three little steps can revolutionize your marriage if you let it. With the Holy Spirit at work in us we can change the face of marriage in our land. Step out today and be the one's who stay married "till death do we part."